You Can Do Hard Things

I have a few sticky notes on my desktop, one saying “You can do hard things!”.

Silly? Maybe, but whatever helps you push through challenges. A little reminder like that works for me and maybe it would for you too!

Whatever you must do to tackle the uncomfortable stuff.

I don’t know about you, but there has been a lot of uncomfortable stuff in my life lately, like a lot… to the point where I’m wondering, what’s going on?

But then I’m reminded that life’s hurdles come and goes in waves. I’m not sure if that is scientifically proven or not, but if not, I’m sure it could be!

As the true optimist that I am, that can only mean one thing, that soon there will be a wave of goodness coming my way! 😉

But let’s be real, what’s hard?

We set up these imaginary boundaries in our heads, yep, they are “homemade” imaginary boundaries.


  • “I can’t jump from a high rock because I’m afraid of heights.”
  • “I can’t public speak because people might think what I say is irrelevant.”
  • “I can’t make that phone call because they might tell me no.”
  • “I can’t charge more because who am I to charge that much?”
  • “I can’t grow my business because I just don’t know how.”

Well, I’m here to tell you (and me) this a bunch of BS! You can do hard things!

You made up those boundaries, so you can also throw them out the window and make new ones.  It’s actually a simple choice. 

Instead of doubting yourself and making excuses, try this:

  • Take one more step and you will be jumping.
  • Find another audience who resonate with you.
  • Push one more button and wait until they pick up.
  • Increase your prices.
  • Reach out to somebody who has grown a business before.

One of my favorite things to watch and support is when people around me do really hard things. I know they can do it and all that is needed is a bit of encouragement and a reminder that they can do hard things. That reminder can be anything from a sticky note, mentor, friend, or family member who knows your homemade boundaries are simply that, homemade. 

On the other side of those boundaries are beautiful achievements:

A sense of accomplishment, growth, and the realization that these boundaries were all made up in your head.

Now imagine what else you can do!

So, today, I simply want to remind you (and me) that you can do hard things!

Not only can you, but you should.

Ways to Connect With Your Client

So you have your color palette, logo, website, and business card handy…. But now what? Do people use business cards still?

As summer begins and business doors re-open the thoughts of, “Where should I go to network?” and “What should I say?” may pop into mind.

Setting it all up is one thing, but letting the world know you exist is a totally different one.

Here is a list of handy-dandy suggestions to connect with the people that want to hear from you.

Content Marketing

Write original content weekly/bi-weekly about your industry. It can be long in-depth articles, short nudges, or a list of suggestions. Take a stand and be bold. A bit time consuming but long-game goodness.

YouTube Channel

Do you like to be in front of the camera (or even if you don’t)? Start a YouTube channel sharing your knowledge and maybe even a few jokes.

Invite people

It could be that simple. Have you emailed, say, 10 people to just let them know about your insightful and delightful weekly posts? While you are at it, suggest they sign-up so they don’t miss one and maybe even remind them that they can share the news with a friend

Interact in Facebook groups

Find groups that fit your industry and expertise and go interact. Answer questions, suggest things, help others. This online presence will showcase your expertise and let people know you are available and know knowledgeable.

Ask to be a guest

Look up podcasts that are related to your industry, where you could provide support/guidance to the audience. Reach out to the person running the show and let them know you have some content you think would really benefit their audience.

Do some work for a discount or free

You can give away your service or product to let people try it out/see what it is like to work with you in exchange that they mention you every time they go anywhere. Or, a good ol’ positive review does the trick too.

Social contest

Show your audience that you do something neat. Take a photo, like, follow and tag a friend. Ta Da!

Write about the right thing

Do your research to see what topics your audience is curious about. Use the specific keywords and phrases from this research in your titles, subjects, articles, and social posts.

Interview somebody

Do you know some thought leaders, interesting, or not so interesting people? Interview them and write about what you found out, credit your interviewee, and ask them to share your post.

Do the work for your client

There are so many options out there, for products/services/tools etc. How about you compare and let users know what conclusions you came to?!


I have always been a team player; it makes doing things more fun while quickly extending your reach. Partner with a charity you like, a related business, co-host, co-author… co anything basically.


Use your content in multiple ways. For example, if you have a podcast, video record it, transcribe it, pull snippets for social post about it, maybe use it for a course, etc. Each solid content you create, you should be able to at least use in three more places

Ok, I hope these helped, sparked some ideas, and got you inspired to connect and step it up.

I inspired myself… anybody want to collaborate?  If yes, hit replay and maybe we can come up with something fun!

Let’s go.

Business Highlight: Church of Music

If you know me, you know I love to dance.

There is no better feeling than being on the dance floor, feeling the freeing energy created by smiling strangers, knowing that you are all here for the common purpose: to dance. 

As the light at the end of the tunnel slips open, dance floors are beginning to make a comeback in very creative ways. One organization that came alive due to the barriers of dance floors during the pandemic is Church of Music, founded by one of the most bold, courageous, and amazing women I know, Alina Gordon, who I am proud to call my soul sister.

This month’s business highlight is one that is close to my heart.

When people in my surroundings do massive things, I want to support them all the way. Alina is doing exactly that. She is materializing a dream of creating a compassionate community with boundaries and a focus on impact.

You may be thinking, “How were people finding places to dance during the pandemic?”.

Well, Church of Music, often known to parishioners (attendees) as COM or “church”, is a weekly service experience where love is their faith, music is their religion, and dancing is their practice. Just like many other religions, service takes place every weekend, mixing between Saturday and Sunday, at a different, beautiful, outdoor San Diego location.

COM’s Mexico Experience is just the beginning of a global vision, one which includes sharing the COM Ethos with the world. 

Unlike other dance floors which can often be filled with drugs and alcohol, Church of Music was established on ten beliefs, known as the COM Ethos. These beliefs set COM apart from other dance floors, creating an inclusive, communal environment rather than a rave-like setting.

The COM Ethos are as follows:

Unlike the common rave culture, which is often stigmatized as dangerous and harmful, this ethos is emphasized at each service and has created a community founded on music and connection.

For many, they have never heard of an ethos, I get that. So, to help our fellow parishioners, as well as future parishioners, understand what makes COM the beautiful environment that it is, I broke down each portion of the ethos to bring light to the careful intentions which were taken into consideration when creating the ethos.

1. Radical Inclusion

Accepting all humans/ aliens, old and young, any race, faith, gender, and political view.

2. Gifting/Participation

Who doesn’t love gifts? COM parishioners love to share and everyone is encouraged to share their gifts/ talents. Although sharing is encouraged, mindfulness of space and acceptance is necessary, and anyone is free to decline with kindness.

3. Decommodification

The world is full of things, COM puts more value on nature, love, and connection over commodities. 

4. Radical Self-Reliance

A beautiful trust on one’s own powers and resources rather than those of others.

5. Communal Effort

Without community, we are nothing. We come together to co-create magic together in our weekly services.  

6. Civic Responsibility

Actively participate in the COM community, we want to get to know and give back to our community! When we care, give, and show respect for the people, places, and spaces we are in, the world becomes better for all!

7. Leave No Trace!

Leave the world better than we found it. We are guests on this planet. COM Parishioners leave every space we occupy better than we find it. 

8. No Alcohol/Open Containers

COM is not a rave, we are not a party. We are here to dance and celebrate one another with clear minds and raise our vibrations.

9. Radical Self-Expression

Be YOU. This is your space! Wear what makes you feel free, dance however your body moves, be who you want to be.

10. Take Care of the Machines (Bodies)

We get one body, treat it with respect. When we treat our bodies with love,  we treat the machines that assist us with respect and all the equipment that provides the ability for us to make our magic for all. 

Together, parishioners and COM Crew ensure that the ethos remains at the foundation of each weekend service, reminding the community that we are together for one reason: to enjoy music, dance, and create community where all are welcome and respected.

Another exciting part is their logo, which I created! Inspired by Alina, a church window, sunshine, community, and of course bold creative colors, their logo is now widely known in San Diego.

If you haven’t had a chance to check them out, it’s time.

COM’s location changes weekly. To find out where they are all you need to do is send Church of Music a donation via Venmo (@COMSD) of your choosing ($35 suggested), and the location will be sent to you!

If you want to be a part of something uniquely different, love dancing to incredible music, see live ballet, electric violin, fire dancers, and much more, go check them out @churchofmusicsd on Instagram and join one of their services!

I hope to see you on the dance floor!

As COM Parishioners say, In Music We Trust.